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Saturday, November 14, 2009

What a Hip Daddy-O!





























Confession: this is a repeat from my old VicAd archives, and is four days late. It is a little late, because this is the first time I've really been able to breathe easy again. We had a little health scare last week going into this week, and we had to get past that for life to resume normally again. The good news: all is well. The better news: my dad had another birthday. We take nothing for granted anymore, and birthdays here lately are certainly no exception. So here is a heartfelt repeat of a little blog I wrote a couple of birthdays ago. The changes that have happened since this was first written have been monumental, but through it all, my father has proven that he is the strongest, greatest man I know. I love you, Daddy-O.


Today is a most special day - my father's birthday. In the lingo of his greaser days, he's a real gone Hep-Cat, a rockin' Daddy-O. How in the world to explain the coolness of a man who, like so many others of his generation, started work while he was in high school, supported a wife and daughter soon after high school, worked his way up through the ranks at an oil tool company by taking whatever shift was offered him, and taking classes at UH downtown whenever he could to allow him better opportunities so he could better support his family? And, contrary to so many others of his generation, remained true to himself and his family (though "the times, they were a'changin'"), became even more cool as the decades flew by, and never embarrassed his only child, even when she was a teenager, by being anything less than hip? The only way to explain to people who are not fortunate enough to know him is to simply say, "He's my daddy Douglas".

Who could have known that the rebel greaser with a treasured black 1958 Chevy (which saw many races down Jackrabbit Road, later known as FM 1960) who didn't do so well in English and Spanish in high school (promting his mother to tell him since he obviously couldn't understand either language, he should just hush up!) would so soon become a responsible family man who shouldered much more than many men ever do, and did it with determination and grace, teaching his child the most important lessons a father could pass on. His thirst for knowledge became mine; his determination to succeed against formidable odds became mine; his love of sports - well, I guess two out of three ain't bad! And his love of music - OH! His love of music.


Imagine growing up in a home filled with music, wonderful music. From The Doors to The Rolling Stones; from Creedence Clearwater Revival to the Beatles.....the soundtrack of my parents' lives became the soundtrack of my life. My favorite memories involve them and their music. Not many gals are lucky enough to have a father who is patient enough to pop in a four-track (yes, you read that right, there is...er, was such a thing) of the 1910 Fruitgum Company just so his daughter can hear "Simon Says" for the umpteenth time while rolling down the highway in his 1966 Ford truck (souped up with mag wheels and loud exhaust, of course). It takes a special man to let his daughter attend her first concert at age 11, even though he worries she is far too young and naive (and of course, she was), and breathes a sigh of relief when she arrives back home safely from this and so many future outings. It is an incredible thing to be raised by a father with a sense of humor (actually putting a BIKINI on a snowwoman in our front yard during a rare Houston snowfall in 1973), and a keen wit. You have never seen a more patient man teach his daughter chess, poker, the necessity to trust and to be trustworthy, and other important facts of life. The love of education was instilled in me at an early age thanks to dad, and that is something that will remain with me the rest of my days.

Because it's your birthday, dad, here are a couple of musical treats for you. I want you to know that I listen to you, even when you think I don't, and remember our talk a few days ago about Dion and the Belmonts' "I Wonder Why". I hope you enjoy the video here, and also your favorite song, "Satisfaction" by your favorite band, The Rolling Stones, here. For all you have meant to me, and all you will always be to me, I love you.

P.S. Thanks for bailing me out when my car died on the highway last night. Just goes to prove, a girl is never too old to need her daddy, Daddy-O.
And for good measure, just because these two songs have been on my mind, I have here "In the City" by the Eagles, from a movie that we always enjoy thoroughly together, The Warriors. Honestly, I ask you, how many fathers can be riding along in the car with their daughters, hear this song come on the radio, and know what it is and from which movie, AND enoy it?! And last, but certainly not least, I have a song I grew up on here, because it was playing on the record player every day. It is "Shape of Things to Come" by Max Frost and the Troopers from the soundtrack of Wild in the Streets, one of our all-time favorite cult movies. I watched that movie as a child, and didn't really understand it all at the time, but now I do, and love it that much more. It is a testament to my father's generation and their belief that they could really change the world. Maybe they didn't change the world in the way they wanted to, but one fine man sure made a little girl's world better. Thanks, Daddy-O.

11 comments:

The Loon said...

Awwwwwww. And a Happy Birthday to your pop.

Edith Ann said...

Sugar, this was sweet. Glad to hear things are better. Love the pics of your dad, but I love that tie in the first pic!

Edith Ann said...

Oh, yeah--Happy Happy Birthday, Sugar's Daddy!

Sugar Magnolia said...

Loon and Edith Ann - I thank you and my dad thanks you!

Interesting story about that tie. That is my cousin, Jason in the tie. His brother got married this past April, and the bride chose as her colors black and hot pink (don't ask....). Anyhoo, Jason was best man, and it was a sort of informal affair, a garden wedding at my aunt's house, and the groomsmen and best men were just asked to dress in black with pink ties. WELLLL.....Jason showed up in this tie to lighten the mood, because he knew his brother was nervous, and it did the trick. And seriously, that was indeed the tie worn by the best man throughout the wedding and reception. Leave it to my family to do something funny like that; that is the way my whole family is, and why I am slightly off-kilter but in a good sort of way. Thank goodness for our sense of humor.

P.S. the tie was from a clown costume a few Halloweens ago....

Truth Ferret said...

What a wonderful tribute to a great dad. (It was a pleasure for me to meet him that night at the college.) You are blessed to have a dad who was such a positive influence in your life. Give your dad a hug from me and tell him thank you for being the dad so many of us never dreamed of knowing.

Sugar Magnolia said...

Truth Ferret, you brought a tear to my eye. I've always known how great a dad I have; I just want others to know too. Thank you!

Truth Ferret said...

You are quite welcome and I didn't mean to make you cry. I had a HORRIBLE father and yet I married a fantastic man. My husband is a sweet, kind and loving dad to our daughter. Talk about poetic justice!! Don't even get me started about what a softie he is with his grandson.....that would make me cry.

Sugar Magnolia said...

Truth Ferret - it was a good tear, not bad. I am glad that the man in your life now is better than the one you had growing up. It is your dad's loss, too, that he didn't appreciate his daughter. He could learn a thing or two from your husband, huh? A good husband, father, and grandfather is a treasure. Hold onto him and love him all you can.

Truth Ferret said...

Absolutely, adore my husband. It has been over thirty years that we have been married and yet it seems still fresh and new. Everyday with him is the best. I have been blessed and our daughter knows how she has the best dad, ever.

Pilot said...

Just when I think You are out of surprises.......
"Don't trust anyone over 30"
Ha!
One of my all time favorite cult classics. Remind me sometime to tell you of the premiere of "Idaho Transfer" .........
I knew your dad was a cool guy, from what you have told me, and what little time I have spent around him, but you have really given me a lot more insight here! I probably have bookmarked 15 sites already from following your links to the side trips that this blog has given me......

Sugar Magnolia said...

14 or fight, my friend! And, by the way, I am NEVER out of surprises. Stick around; the fun has just begun. I just knew you would appreciate the "Wild in the Streets" reference...The funny thing is, now I don't trust anyone UNDER 30!

Happy hopping with your (side) trips, Pilot!